Mid-January Wardrobe Recap

Taking a picture of yourself every single day is a very eye-opening experience. I didn't realize how body conscious and self-deprecating I was until this new year. But one thing it did confirm is that I love my wardrobe! Not shopping for a year will really help me to utilize what I already own in a new and exciting way.

It has been ridiculously cold in Florida for 3 weeks solid and I needed to get pretty creative to keep myself warm and feeling good in my own skin. Over the years I've slowly gotten rid of my warmer wardrobe because we average temps in the 80's year round. Who needs gorgeous bulky sweaters or cute peacoats for one day a year? Apparently I did since this entire month has been an ice box! But I made it through with a leather jacket that was given to me last year from a friend's rich employer. Winning!

The other thing taking a picture of myself every day revealed is how much I like my overall look better if I take the time to fix my hair. What you see in the picture is how I looked: hair up, workout clothes, hair down, heels, sweatshirts, all of it. And when I take the time to actually fix my hair, it makes me feel more put together. I already feel like I'm learning so much through this year long shopping fast and it's not even the end of January yet!

Here are my outfits for the first part of January.

This is really reminding me of the five years I participated in the October Dress Project. Maybe I'll join in again and do it this year. What do you guys think?

Also, did you see that I'm featuring Sseko Designs as my #fashionforgood company for January? Check it out and buy a little something for yourself!

Sseko Designs: Uganda, Africa

When we decided to adopt from Africa, all my childhood dreams were coming true. I've always had this special place in my heart for that massive continent and bringing two sons into my family from it was beyond my wildest dreams. Before we flew to Uganda to meet our sons, I contacted Sseko Designs and asked about visiting their workshop in Kampala, Uganda. Not only did I get to visit, I also was able to bring supplies so that they could continue manufacturing their amazing products. It was a life altering experience for me and my relationship with my clothing.

Visiting the workshop, seeing how the sandals were made, and meeting the women who were able to go to college because of it forever changed the way I looked at clothing. It gave a tangible experience to help me realize that the clothing that is so plentiful and accessible in every store, is made by an actual person. And that person has a name and a story and a family to support. And they have dreams to be lived. And I could no longer separate what I wore from the reality. 

My visit to the workshop in 2012.

Sseko Designs was born by Liz Bohannan when she visited Uganda after college as a journalism major. It changed her forever and she sought to help girls, who had become her friends, fund their college education. Uganda still values education for males over females, so Sseko empowers young women to achieve their dreams to be college educated and make a better life for themselves, while changing the gender norms. 

The women who graduated from the Sseko program and have enough money to head to college.

After several years in business having great success and even appearing on Shark Tank, they decided to help women here in the USA achieve their dreams by starting the Sseko Fellows program. Women here could become ambassadors for Sseko, having home shows and private shopping parties for friends, all the while sharing the remarkable stories about the women across the globe who were making the products. And one of those Sseko Fellows is Erin Sutliff.

Erin Sutliff with Sseko founder, Liz Bohannan

Here's an interview with Erin:

How long have you been a Sseko Fellow and why did you decide to join?

I started with Sseko Designs in October 2015 because I loved the mission, product and really because I felt like this is what God wanted me to do.

What has Sseko done for you personally? 

What God has done through Sseko amazes me all the time. I have gained so much confidences in myself. I feel like I am me again. There are things that Sseko has help with financially but it is so much more then that for me.  It is empowering me.  It is giving me me, I guess.

What would you tell other women?

I am so excited I followed this and took that leap of faith. It isn't always easy, but anything worth having is worth working for.  I love the work I am doing and the impact I am having with the women in East Africa and here. 

Thanks, Erin for sharing! Both Erin and I wanted to share our favorite Sseko products with you and a chance for you to grab your own. 


Karissa's Favorite:
Ribbon Sandals

Why?
They are so versatile because of the many ways to tie them and the colorful ribbons, the possibilities are endless! And because I picked mine out at the actual workshop from the women who made them, they will forever be my favorite pair of shoes.

Erin's Favorite:
Bucket Bag

Why?
My favorite aside from the sandals is the bucket bag. It has held up to Mom life. That includes movie theaters, amusement parks, in pools and all around mom life.

And we are having a trunk show! Want to buy your own products and support these amazing women in Uganda? They click this link and go shop! And tell us what is your favorite Sseko Designs item!

Day 2 of no shopping in 2018

The weather had been consistently chilly for Florida, averaging around 48 degrees for the third day in a row and rumors of snow in Central Florida were circulating. This stark change from 95 degree days allowed for all kinds of layering options, which is my dream wardrobe, but my 20 pound heavier frame was struggling to find the warm clothing I only donned four days a year and hadn't needed in two years, to keep me warm for the day to come. I grabbed jeans, a long sleeve black shirt, scarf and jacket. Not the most creative combination, but I was limited by the cold and my weight gain.

The kids were home on Christmas break and thankfully, my husband's teaching schedule aligns perfectly with my school-aged kiddos vacations, allowing him to be home as I headed to work. Nothing out of the ordinary happened at work as I attended a staff meeting, scheduled social media posts, created graphics and did a little bookkeeping. The biggest struggle I faced was wrestling with my rarely worn scarf as I moved around in my normal speedy way and found myself ensnared.

I then headed to the exciting part of the day, something that had been on my calendar for a couple of months and I was greatly looking forward to. It was a cast & crew premiere of a the feature length film, "At the End of the Day" that I made a small cameo appearance. Heading straight from work, I coincidentally walked in with the young man who played my son in the film. We snagged this picture as we smiled through the cold wind before heading in.

The film began, my face appeared and faded on the screen while friends cheered and I smiled. And then I settled in to enjoy the work of my friends who have made their dream come true. It was inspiring to watch and see my town so beautifully captured to tell this unique story.

But I became distracted.

As the movie continued, the beautiful historic Polk Theatre had it's heat on while the movie played, but I found myself in this odd space where cold air circulated with the warm. I pulled my scarf around me, thankful I was wearing a very large one, and put my hands between my crossed legs to warm them. That's when I felt it.

I felt my cold icy fingers on my thigh.

I was wearing jeans. How could I feel my skin through jeans? And then I realized what this must mean. There was a hole in the crotch! My jeans that I had owned for 5 years had developed a hole where there shouldn't be one. I was mortified!

Thankfully, I was wearing a gazillion layers and the theatre was dark, but after the congrats were exchanged, I ran to my car and jetted home. I took off my jeans and sure enough, a small hole had developed just from the day-to-day friction of wearing. The area around it was also threadbare and on it's last legs. What a blow!

All of this took place on January 2nd, only 2 days into my year without buying new clothes. The second day of a year long agreement with myself to make due with the massive wardrobe I owned and a staple piece was damaged. It was mildly devastated, because this is my only pair of jeans. While I do own 21 dresses, I only own 4 pairs of pants and only one of those is jeans.

Many of my Instagram followers suggested hosting a swap and some even volunteered to buy a new pair for me. As touched as I am by these offers, I feel like it would diminish the year long fast I am on. So, I going to attempt to patch the jeans from the inside with the help of Google. I'll keep you posted.

Only 360 more days until I can buy another pair of jeans!

THE YEAR OF EXCESS: Wardrobe

23 pairs of shoes

7 pairs of pants

17 shirts

11 skirts

21 dresses

14 cardigans/blazers/jackets
3 kimonos

21 t-shirts

8 tank tops

6 yoga pants

4 pairs of athletic shorts

5 athletic shirts

7 leggings

1 pair of shorts

4 bathing suits

3 beach cover-ups

18 pairs of earrings

27 bracelets

29 necklaces

14 rings

10 fabric headbands

11 hats

And that isn't taking into account the clothes that are in the dirty laundry hamper from a week of wearing.

If that isn't enough of a wardrobe, get this: I have an entire wardrobe that I can wear on my 20 pound lighter body in a huge box that I still haven't touched, but refuse to get rid of because I love what's in it. You read that right: An entire other wardrobe.

It's pretty humbling to count everything in your closet and even more embarrassing to write all of that out, a record for everyone to read of the excess I have. I read the list out loud to my husband and was a little surprised. He said, "When you list it out like that, it really does seem like a lot, huh?" If my number of shoes wasn't overwhelming, this list really put a perspective on things. I realized what I needed to do.

I decided not to purchase any new clothes in 2018.

Obviously, I won't be hurting or struggling to put together many, many different outfits. I think I have 3 months worth of clothes I could wear without repeating anything. But the purpose is to stop the impulse to buy new clothes and appreciate what is already in my closet. It's like the October Dress Project for an entire year. Bring on the creativity!

I plan to do a weekly wrap up of my outfits, showcasing unique ways I've styled things and what I'm learning from this year long fast. And every month I'll highlight a different company I've come to love because of their mission, sustainable and fair trade practices and the way they give back.

In preparation for not purchasing anything in 2018, I will use a gift card I got for Christmas to buy a much needed bra the first week in 2018 (because I didn't make it to the store in between Christmas and the New Year because I don't need that crazy in my life) and I purchased a couple of pairs of underwear and a black t-shirt from PACT.

PACT is certified organic and fair trade, aiming to make the comfiest clothes without harming the environment or the people that live in it. It's my kind of company and I don't know why it has taken me so long to purchase from them! I purchased a 2 pack of lace-waist briefs and lace-waist thongs. And their v-neck is only $16 and comes in many different colors, so what are you waiting for?!?! Go snag yourself some organic, fair trade goodness in the essentials department for a new year.

Happy New Year! Let's make 2018 one for the books!

p.s. do you follow me on Instagram?

2018: THE YEAR OF EXCESS

The day we brought Andrew and Simon home from Uganda to our 1,200 sq ft home in Florida, I knew I wanted to move.

The noise in the house was staggering enough, but add in 2 kids in diapers, 2 homeschooling and all four kids under 5 years old sharing the same space all day, every day and I had a daycare in my house, that I never left. Ever. Those were tough, long years in that tiny house.

Fast forward five years and we finally move into a new home! We call her Orange Haven and we are loving every square inch of our big mid-century beauty, spacious yard and amazing neighborhood (it's like we went back in time 50 years with chili cook-offs and neighborhood kids free-range on bikes everywhere. Swoon!).

As I was unpacking my closet in the new house, I looked up and became slack-jawed when I saw 23 pairs of shoes.

I had neatly lined them up one by one on my newly purchased shoe rack at the top of my closet, not really reflecting on how many there were until I had finished putting the last shoe in place and I looked up at all of them. I honestly had no idea I owned that many. Twenty-three different pairs of shoes. And all of them were mine.

Why did I need that many pairs of shoes? Sure, I could rationalize that I needed 4 different pairs of heel in various shades of black & brown, all vastly different styles for my ever changing look. It would be easy to explain why I had 4 pairs of sustainably made flats and 2 different fair trade sandals that all gave a better life for someone across the globe simply because I bought them. And I can explain why I have 2 pairs of running shoes and 2 fashion sneakers when I don't run or exercise at all.

Isn't this what the stereotypical American women is? Shoe obsessed? Variety for every outfit imaginable? I was just fitting in the norms of lots of people I know and giving my Instagram following examples of a socially conscience wardrobe on a real life person. And for even more justification, the majority of my clothes are made by people whose names I know and they are getting a fair wage and better life because I purchased them. So it's OK, right?

The more I wrestled with the sheer volume of shoes and then all my clothing as I unpacked box after box after box, I realized that things in my life were out of sync.

The thing that kept coming to mind was, "This is so much. I have so much. Why do I have so much?" But then I would scroll through my beautifully curated Instagram feed through sustainable companies and think, "Oh! I want that!" These two opposing forces were fighting an internal battle and I knew which one was winning. And it was time for an intentional change.

As 2017 comes to a close and we look to a new year and a fresh start, I'm choosing my word of the new year as "EXCESS."

It's a negative word, which is usually not the point of choosing a word for the year. The intention behind choosing a word is to motivate and help with reflection, but mine is a cautionary word as I reflect on all I have and my attitude towards it. Am I thankful and content with the good gifts God gives or just focused on consuming to get the excitement of something new?

Am I pursuing God or just the good gifts He gives?

And my first step in 2018 is to start a year long fast of not purchasing any new clothing items for all of 2018. Not underwear, a cute necklace, or a cause-driven t-shirt. I will not purchase anything for my wardrobe and make use of the excess I have in my amazing wardrobe already. I'm excited about this challenge!


Thanks for joining back into my blog after a two year break! I look forward to sharing so many things with you over the next year, like 12 fair trade brands worth investing in, post-adoption depression, curating a diverse children's library for your home and so many things.

Do you have a word of the year for 2018? Share below!

Fair Trade subscription box review

Instagram is my social media preference for many reasons. I seriously think it has taken the place of blogs in many ways and with so many gorgeous images to look at on a daily basis, it's easy to see the appeal. One of the things I love about Instagram is how quickly I can find other people, blogs and companies that share the same passions I do by searching through hashtags. 

Many people have found me through some common hashtags I use on Instagram: 

#adoptionrocks 

#ethicalfashion 

#momof4 

#actorlife

And I have found many companies through hashtags they use:

#fairtrade

#shoplocal

#womenhelpingwomen

#girlboss

One such company that I connected with was Box of Blessings by International Blessings, a fair trade subscription box. Sarah Barnett, the founder of the company reached out to me through Instagram about trying their Box of Blessing. My love of fair trade products knows no bounds, so I was delighted to learn about a new subscription box focused exclusively on it.

The subscription can be for 1, 3 or 6 months. Each box contains 3-4 handmade items or pieces of jewelry made from around the world from impoverished nations, empowering artisans to earn a sustainable wage through admirable means. The best part is the little card inside which tells you about where the product came from and the people who made it. It's a great way to feel connected to your purchase and the artisans who created it.

And if all that wasn't awesome enough, they also donate 10% of all proceeds to a poverty fighting cause every month. All of that information is right inside the subscription box.

I received the June subscription box and I was delighted with what I found.

A gorgeous green stone ring and wooden bracelet made in Old Delhi India by a group of nearly 80 artists with Matr Boomie.

There was also a set of hand-blown glass earrings hand made by an Ecuadorian widow names Aida Males.

All three items showed great craftsmanship and are just stunning to see. They've all become regular staples in my wardrobe.

If you are interested in trying out fair trade, consider subscribing to a Box of Blessings and enjoy ethical accessories delivered straight to your door from around the world. And be sure to tell them The Acting Mom sent you!


p.s. Visiting a fair trade workshop in Uganda changed my views on ethical fashion.


All opinions in this post are my own. I did receive the product for free in exchange for sharing my opinions with all of you.

Customizable fashion

When I was contacted by eShakti about partnering together to try their customizable dresses, I jumped for joy! I am already a HUGE fan of their site, having pinned many dresses in my wish list and purchased two of their dresses this past year. Any time people ask me where to go for modern dresses with a vintage twist, I send them to eShakti.

As you guys know, I'm a huge advocate of moms taking care of themselves by staying active in the fashion world. Too often we pour all we have into our little kiddos and we get lost along the way. One way I don't let this happen as a mom to four young kids is by taking pride in my appearance for myself.

For me, dawning a dress is just what I need to make my day a little brighter. And here in sunny, humid, sticky Florida, a dress is built-in air-conditioning. Winning!

I asked my Facebook followers to vote on which dress I should choose from eShaki from four options. There were lots of votes, lots of ideas as to why a dress suited me or would be most flattering to my figure. But in the end,  the bubble check dress was the fan favorite. So to www.eshakti.com I went!

I customized it by adding cap sleeves and shortening it to knee length. I'm so glad I did! My arms are an area my eyes are drawn to when I'm scrutinizing pictures of myself. We all have that one spot, don't we, that makes us cringe? Well, for me, it's my arms. By adding the cap sleeves to the traditionally sleeveless dress, I solved my self conscious feelings and can wear it with nary a thought. I just love my figure looks in this dress.

One of the MANY things I love about eShakti is how durable their dresses are. They are high quality garments that won't fall apart after a season of wear. All of their seams are strong and their dresses are very well constructed.

And did I mention every dress comes with pockets?!?!?! Yes!!! They do! I love this feature because as a mom on-the-go I can throw my phone and keys in my pocket and keep up with my crazy gang.

This was my first time trying their customize option and it couldn't have been easier. On most of their dresses you can adjust the neckline (scoop, v-neck, sweetheart, etc.), sleeve type (none, cap, 3/4, etc) and adjust the hemline according to your height (because we all know knee length on someone who is 4'11" is vastly different than knee length on someone who is 6'1"). It's almost like having tailor made clothes. Oh the luxury!

I am extremely happy with my selection and thank you to everyone who voted! What do you guys think? What dress would you buy? 

p.s. Here is a coupon code "theactingmom" exclusively created for you, my awesome readers to get 10% OFF when they shop at eShakti – valid from 04/25/2015 – 05/25/2015 

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Code has to be entered in the ‘promotional code’ box.   It is not case-sensitive.  

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(All opinions are my own. This is not a sponsored post.)

Creating a sustainable wardrobe- Part 2

First part of this series is here.


My goal as a sustainably minded person is to create a versatile wardrobe that contains sturdy, durable pieces that are timeless, quality items. Over the years I have purchased these items from Target, online, fair trade boutiques and one of my favorite budget-friendly places: thrift stores. 

I am always searching for clothes that will work double and triple duty in my day-to-day clothing. A piece that can only be worn one way or with only one other item is nice on occasion, but I want these to the exception. Instead, pieces in my ensemble should be interchangeable with many things to allow the maximum "bang for my buck." We are after all, a large family living in a small house and I only have so much closet space. My first step in the journey to creating a classic wardrobe began the first year I participated in The October Dress Project. Wearing one dress for 31 days challenged me to rethink the way I did fashion and focus on creative solutions to making that dress look different every single day. Five years later, I can see how much my closet has changed and how my approach to clothes shopping has shifted.

Photo by Tiffany Bagwell Photography

I'm always learning techniques for creating a wardrobe that endures fashion trends and I wanted to share with all of you where I go to learn. Here are my favorite blog posts and bloggers who can help you along the journey to creating a closet full of clothes that make you feel stunning and are making a positive impact on the world around you.


7 sustainable wardrobe resources

1. WARDROBE ARCHITECT: 14 week blog series to help you craft a meaningful wardrobe that reflects your personal style.


2. REFASHIONISTA: Fashion revised, repurposed and revitalized through thrift store finds and a sewing machine


3. THE THRIFT STORE SHOPPER: Listings of thrift stores in every area of the United States in one easy to find place


4. PUTTING ME TOGETHER: Learn to work your closet with proper fit and re-mixable clothing items


5. THE CLOTHES HORSE: Remix pictures every Sunday showing how she styled one outfit many different ways


6. THE GIRLS WITH GLASSES: Watch their YouTube video on thrift store shopping


7. PINTEREST BOARDS: I've compiled even more style advice  on maximizing your wardrobe, fair trade and ethical clothing, and eye-candy.

Follow Karissa Barber // The Acting Mom's board Style Advice on Pinterest.
Follow Karissa Barber // The Acting Mom's board Fair Trade/Ethical Clothing on Pinterest.




What are your sustainable and classic wardrobe tips or go-to websites? Leave a comment to share your knowledge and great advice!

p.s. Check out how to prepare before you head to the thrift store and what to do when you get there. 

NOT JUST A MOM // 7 ways fashion can help you be a better mom

NOT JUST A MOM is a series about finding the woman behind the mom. Often our identity as mothers is wrapped up in that title, but it is important for us to realize that first we are a person, then a spouse and then a parent. Finding what you enjoy outside of motherhood can recharge you to be the best wife, mother and housekeeper you can be. Read more in the series here. 

Fashion is a lot of fun to me. Granted, I can only participate from the sidelines on a teacher's salary as a family of 6, but I think it is empowering and aesthetically pleasing. Checking out what the latest trends are, newest fair trade finds and great thrifted steals is a great way to give my brain a mental vacation from baby wipes, potty training and homeschooling.

Sometimes our busy lives as moms don't allow us to get out and try a new hobby or have a girls night, but it can allow us to have some kind of pursuit outside of motherhood. And maybe fashion can do that for you.

Finding a sense of identity as a put-together, fashion conscious person has a lot of benefits. And when you are taking care of yourself, you are better able to take care of your kids, husband and household. Wining!!!



Here are my reasons why you should care about fashion:


1. You never have to leave the house! With the glorious internet, you can nurse your baby, cook a pot roast and mop a floor while you shop the latest trends. And most online boutiques have a great return policy to make exchanging sizes easy. The excuse that it takes you away from your family isn't going to cut it this time, so start perusing!

2. Investing in your appearance can help you feel beautiful. Not that a little spit up and a couple of grass stains aren't flattering, but donning yoga pants for the fourth day in a row make me feel a little bluh, which bleeds into all other areas of my life, am I right? Putting a little attention into your wardrobe can boost your sense of worth, and you are worth investing in. Read that again, dear friend. You are worth investing in.

3. With a put together look, you will feel confident to go anywhere.  Sometimes meeting up with other women can be intimidating, but if you feel good in your own skin in a great outfit, you will be more likely to let the real you shine. We all need to connect with other adults on a regular basis and a polished look gives you that extra push to get out there and do it. Whether you are headed to a mommy-and-me play date, a night on the town, job interview or date, you will feel confident.

4. A confident woman is a sexy woman. (This part doesn't really have to do with being a better mom, but hang in there!) And what husband doesn't want a confident, sexy wife? I mean, that is how you became a parent in the first place, right? Why not allow a little of that sex appeal to creep back into your attire and rekindle some passion? (*wink*)

5. Fashion connects you to the outside world. When your idea of news is what is trending on Twitter, it might feel like you don't really know what is really going on outside of your four walls. Motherhood can be isolating, but hopping over to see what is going on in everyday fashion on a favorite blog is an easy way to peek above the piles of dirty dishes and rekindle a little of what makes you you.

6. Clothes that make you feel good encourage you to take better care of the body in them. Sometimes we push self-care to the back of the shelf. I don't know about you, but when I am wearing an outfit that makes me look like a million bucks, I want to take care of myself! I want great hair, well-applied make-up and glowing skin from healthy eating to compliment it. When I'm wearing a t-shirt and sweats, that bag of kettle chips jumps into my hand. An outfit that makes me feel good motivates me to take care of myself so I look good in it again the next time.

7. Great clothes, confidence and self-care empower you to take risks. A lot of moms are stuck in a life rut. Time to jump out of that and live your dreams! Parenthood often removes us from the real world for a time and it can be a little of a culture shock to jump back into life without diapers. Clothes you love can help give you a boost to take risks in a new career, pursuing a passion, or forming new friendships.



Want to start revamping your wardrobe and don't know where to start? Check out my favorite fashion blogs and online boutiques. Then start your own Pinterest board with your style icons, wish-lists and your favorite fashion blogs.

Favorite Every Day Fashionistas

Dean Street Society by Hilary Rushford

J's Everyday Fashion

Found in my Closet

What I Wore by The Pleated Poppy

Real Style Icons on Yes and Yes

The Acting Mom's Style Pinterest Board

Favorite Online Shopping

eShakti

ModCloth

Mata Traders

Sseko Designs

Noonday Collections

P.S. I am getting ready to start year 5 of the October Dress Project and I have chosen a patterned dress this year. Anxious, excited and nervous about what I could possibly learn the fifth time around, if my sheath dress will drive me bananas and if a pattern is a horrible idea. Eeekkk!!!

Tips for Thrift Store Shopping: Part 2

Did you miss part 1?

Armed with your list, you are ready to head to a thrift store! For now, just pick a thrift store you've been to before and walk on in. Head to the first section on your list, whether that is shoes, dresses, tops, pants, hats, belts or wherever. Here are some tips on what to look for:

1. Check name brands and sizes. You have a general idea of what brands have a reputation for quality and which ones fall apart quickly (Banana Republic vs. Faded Glory). When you find a garment you like, check the tag to see what the brand is and if it is your size. Different brands run sizes differently, some have a small size 10 that would fit while the size 8 in another would fit you just right. I like to select a couple sizes up and down from me, just incase the tag isn't accurate to the size.

2. Look for defects. Check the garment for holes, snags and stains. Really check the piece carefully from top to bottom, back and front. Even if the piece is inexpensive, would you really wear it with piling? Probably not, so it isn't worth your time to try it on.

3. Try it on! You should like the style of it, but if it doesn't fit well, it isn't for you. Fit is extremely important when it comes to any item you add to your wardrobe. This is when it is nice to have an honest, but kind friend to help you evaluate how it looks on you. Sometimes I have fallen too in love with a piece before trying it on and convinced my eyes that what I was seeing in the mirror was just perfect when in actuality I should have left it for another person.

4. Sort and inspect again. Once you tried on all your items, take our your list and see which ones match with your wardrobe needs. Once you've decided what items to purchase and what to put back on the rack, re-inspect very closely the to-keep pile. Really make sure you didn't miss any holes, stains or snags.

Stay tuned for the last part in the series where we talk about what thrift stores are the best.

P.S. Remember when I wore one dress for an entire month or I purged my closet? 

Tips for Thrift Store Shopping: Part 1

I am a lover of all things fair trade, but sometimes that isn't always financially possible. One of the other things I am passionate about is reducing my impact on the environment by purchasing used clothes, keeping them out of landfills and voting with my dollar about what I believe is important. This is where my love of thrift stores and their treasures of clothing goodness comes into play. The clothes I am complimented on the most have come from thrift stores, so I think it is well worth your time to check it out.


Shopping at a thrift store is a gamble because you never know what you will discover or when you will walk away empty handed. It can be an intimidating undertaking, so I've compiled a list of tips to make thrift store shopping easier to navigate.

1. Evaluate your existing wardrobe

Divide your clothes into categories: summer or winter, staple items vs. trendy, pants or dresses, etc. Organize it any way that works for your brain and then see what you have. Are you missing a great pair of jean shorts for the summer? Or a classic black dress for girls night out or date night? What about a maxi dress in a trendy pattern that can transition from summer to fall? By laying it all out in an organized fashion, you will be able to see gaps in your wardrobe.

2. Decide your style objectives

You've organized your closet and have an idea of what you are missing. Now you need to decide what type of wardrobe are you working towards. Are you looking for a trendy mom look? Fashionista fresh out of fashion week? Vintage inspired femininity?  Knowing what your personal style is or what you want it to be will help you look for those pieces when you step inside of any store. Commit to buying items that are flattering to your body shape and fit within the look you are trying to create

3. Compile a list of all gaps in your wardrobe

With an idea of what your style is and what is missing, make a list of all the gaps in your wardrobe. Write down if you are missing a good sports bra or a classic white button up shirt. Every item that you feel is an essential part of getting dressed goes on the list, no matter how small or how expensive. I created my list on a Pinterest board, linking to images of items I want to add or now own to establish my classic wardrobe.That way I don't have to keep track of a piece of paper and can pull it up while I'm shopping.

4. Based on the season and immediate needs, write your shopping list

With your comprehensive list of wardrobe needs, make your shopping list for your thrift store outing. Some items you might want to buy new for durability, like a pair of flattering dark wash jeans and that is O.K. Only include items you feel comfortable being second hand and are needed in the current season you are in.


Now you are ready to hit the thrift stores... almost.

Keep reading! Part 2 is here.

And the results of the contest to Rwanda are...

I didn't make it into the top 7, but, BUT, I never left the front page of the contest!!!
That might not seem like much, but some of these women are HUGE bloggers that I have followed for years with 7,000+ followers on Instagram alone and hundreds of comments on every blog post, so I am amazingly impressed with all of YOU and your determination to see me win!

My number stayed at about #15 the entire time and I would just smile and smile when I saw where I was. It spoke of your faithfulness and consistency in spreading the word and voting every single day for two weeks solid. You guys are rock stars! Because 15 out of 400? Seriously amazing!!! And you guys voted 2,521 times for me!!!

Did I want to win? Of course I did. Am I a little sad I'm not in the top 7? 
Sure, but what I got instead was way better than a chance at a trip to Africa.

When I shared with Craig where I was in Noonday's #styleforjustice trip and how encouraged I was by all of you, he said, "It testifies to the genuine community you have around you, doesn't it?" And nothing could be truer. You all sincerely care about me, my family, and the things I'm passionate about. That leaves me humbled and in awe of all of you. Thank you for your support. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! I am a winner because of what this contest showed me about the people I surround myself with and how much you care. Cheesy as it may sound, that was the best part of all of this for me. Every night I went to bed overwhelmed because YOU shared and voted and shared and voted and kept on sharing and voting until the very last moment. You believed in me. And that is something to celebrate!

So, where does that leave me and 

what am I taking away from all of this?

-I am JUST as passionate about fair trade and fair wages.

-I'm dreaming about a trip to advocate for fair wages next summer  

(Don't worry. It won't involve voting!).

-I want my community to learn more about what this trip was REALLY all about, for me.

So, grab some coffee and settle in to hear my heart, be challenged a little and learn how EASY it truly is to make a difference in another person's life through fair trade. 

Fair trade. Fair wages. Ethical working conditions. They are all terms that are easily thrown around, but maybe not as easy to understand. Basically, fair trade is a movement that seeks to improve the working conditions, practices and wages for people in other nations that export goods. Common fair trade items are coffee, bananas, sugar, chocolate and my favorite, hand-made goods, aka clothes and jewelry.

That is what fair trade is, so why is that important and how can one fair trade purchase make a difference? There are many economic, environmental, and social explanations that can be given and you can do further research by reading about it here and here, but I think it is easiest explained through my visit to two fair trade workshops.

 

While we were adopting Andrew and Simon in Uganda, we visited two different fair trade workshops: Sseko Designs and One Mango Tree in Kampala. I was already a fan of their work and owned several items from both companies, as a way to connect with my new sons' country before they were a part of our family. (I wrote about our trip to deliver 50 pounds of white canvas to Sseko here.) Walking through the front gate of each workshop felt like walking on sacred ground. I was ecstatic and no amount of crying or fussing from our two new sons could take away the joy I felt as we started our tour. We took photos and video (which Craig is going to start editing together soon) and just smiled and smiled (are you noticing a theme?) as we were shown each new phase of the production process. It was truly a once in a lifetime experience to actually shake hands with the women who handcrafted the shoes I had on my feet and the dresses I wore. There was a life behind the garment I clothed myself with and that became extremely powerful in my mind.

Seeing the actual products being made while we walked through the workshop and knowing that the working conditions I was seeing where the actual ones I saw advertised on their website was a validation that these companies were indeed helping. They didn't clean up because some random American visitors were walking through their workshop that day. What we saw was the genuine thing and I felt good that my purchase was giving an opportunity for these young ladies that I met to go to college, and make a different life for themselves in a male dominated society. It was such a powerful reminder that I could no longer look at a garment I put on my body and not think about the person who made it, the family they supported, and the community they impacted. My Instagram is filled with hashtags and links to the fair trade items I wear, because I remember the faces of these ladies, and I want others to help support artisans earning a liveable wage to bring themselves and their families out of poverty.

Writing all of this down for you all has made me realize that, in a way, this experience would be very similiar to the type of trip I was trying to win with Noonday to Rwanda. Meeting the artisans and telling their stories, which is exactly what I am doing now. Full circle, huh? I guess all I needed to do was blog about it.


What can you do? I'm so glad you asked!!! I just so happen to have some fair trade items I picked up in Uganda while we were there AND I am going to sell them to YOU! All of the money made will go to International Justice Mission, one of the sponsors of the trip to Rwanda, whose mission is to protect the poor from violence. Doesn't that seem like a fitting close to this contest? Raising money to support justice around the world? I think so!

Our adoptions shirts (3 L only), $20 :: Paper-bead necklaces, $20 :: Fabric clutches, $15 :: Paper-bead bracelets, $7 :: Fabric headbands, $5 :: Wooden key chains, $5

Want an item pictured? Simply PayPal the money to justcallmesparkle@hotmail.com with a note about which item you want, include an extra $2 for shipping if you are out of state, and it is yours! (I'll also be posting pictures to Instagram and Facebook to sell as well.) You will be the PROUD new owner of an awesome FAIR TRADE item, and a story to share with others every time you have it on or with you about this crazy girl you know who tried to win a trip to Rwanda. Cool, right? 

And if you just want to donate to International Justice Mission, do it! They are amazing advocates for the oppressed around the world. 

 

But what about other fair trade companies? You ask great questions! The other thing you can do is to start purchasing things yourself from fair trade companies! Here are some of my favorites and I know you will find one you love. Will you share with me what strikes your fancy and what you bought? I would love, love, LOVE to hear!!!

-Sseko Designs (Uganda)

-One Mango Tree (Uganda)

-31 Bits (Uganda)

-Mata Traders (India)

-Marketplace India (India)

-Sole Rebel (Ethiopia)

-Noonday Collection (World)

-The Hunger Site (World hunger)

-Sevenly (Various weekly causes)

-Fed by Threads (US hunger)


There are many, many others, so start looking! Educate yourself and decide to start making conscientious choices about what you are purchasing and how that affects the world around you. 
You can make a difference. One purchase at a time.

After hugging the necks of the women who made the sandals and dresses I already loved, I could never look at a garment again without considering the person who made it, the family they supported and the community they impacted - See more at: http://review.wizehive.com/voting/view/noonday-publicvoting/23056/2106315/0#sthash.6WFTrrb4.dpuf

After hugging the necks of the women who made the sandals and dresses I already loved, I could never look at a garment again without considering the person who made it, the family they supported and the community they impacted. As an adoptive mom, I have been intimately impacted by the pain of poverty and scarce opportunities many women around the world struggle through. - See more at: http://review.wizehive.com/voting/view/noonday-publicvoting/23056/2106315/0#sthash.6WFTrrb4.dpuf

After hugging the necks of the women who made the sandals and dresses I already loved, I could never look at a garment again without considering the person who made it, the family they supported and the community they impacted. As an adoptive mom, I have been intimately impacted by the pain of poverty and scarce opportunities many women around the world struggle through. - See more at: http://review.wizehive.com/voting/view/noonday-publicvoting/23056/2106315/0#sthash.6WFTrrb4.dpuf