TRUE STORIES is a guest post series sharing honestly about adoption
and foster care. My hope is to create a culture of support for the
adoption/foster community. If you
would like to share your story, click here. Today’s post is written by Mindy Brouse.
"Sigh.
I thought there would be more of an understanding community within the adoption circle, but judgment against one another’s decisions are there just as much as other groups. And judgment against those who adopt and they way they choose to do it. I shouldn’t be surprised, really. Sin nature is sin nature.
I thought there would be more of an understanding community within the adoption circle, but judgment against one another’s decisions are there just as much as other groups. And judgment against those who adopt and they way they choose to do it. I shouldn’t be surprised, really. Sin nature is sin nature.
Here are a few of the most common things
adoptive parents hear:
“Why aren’t you adopting from the foster
system? There are plenty of kids there.”
“Why would you adopt a baby, when you could
adopt an older child that is waiting?”
“Why are you going to another country to
adopt when there are babies and children here?”
“How can you justify spending that amount of
money for a child?”
“Why won’t you go adopt a special needs
child that needs to find a home soon?”
Each of these questions are seriously
loaded. And each of them are not easily answered.
Instead of bashing one another’s
decision for adoption route, we should rejoice that children find forever
families.
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Thanks Mindy for sharing some of the hurdles you have encountered as you are on the adoption journey. To read the rest of Mindy's post, click here.
We faced a lot of the same questions and scrutiny from our community when we announced our adoption. Many people were excited for us, but many asked questions that came with condemnation. It was hard to navigate since we were thrilled to be expanding our family in this way.
One of the silver-lining parts of adoption is seeing the people in your life that truly care about you for who you are. Adoption, especially international adoption, can be a sort of "line in the sand" for those who know you. Either they are for you adopting and will show up to every funraiser or they will ignore the newest addition coming.
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3 comments:
Thank you for this Karissa...so much I was not aware of, and a great opportunity to send someone I know to your site for more insight into this high calling of adoption. Dropping in from Faith Filled Friday:)
I won't lie. I did not understand adoption until my friend walked that road. I often asked why there were so many here and people left the country. The question is not one country or another, instead it's both. Both sets of children need forever families and to be loved. Thank you for your honesty with this post. =)
Mindy, We adopted years ago, and one thing I've learned, is people seem to think this is a fair game discussion forever. The decision to adopt, the choice of country, and then how we parent. I completely agree . . . time to stop judging and start encouraging. Excellent post!
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