15.12.11

Back Burner Idea {ADOPTION}


My mentor in college, Alison Rutland, told me she always had an idea brewing on the back burner. Her whole life she was always dreaming, always planning, always thinking about what might happen if her current project ended. She wasn't trying to be negative and she wasn't a discontented person by any means. Mrs. Rutland understood that life changes. Things don't stay the same. Projects come to completion. People move away. Money no longer exists for what you were working on. The list could be a mile long for all the reasons something in your life changes. That isn't the point to figure out the real reason something ended, but a chance to move onto the next thing. It was time to dust off that back burner idea and start working on making it a reality. Mrs. Rutland's project that I worked with her on ended several years ago, and she is living in another state working on another back burner project.


My whole life I have made back burner projects:

-Own a pet monkey
-Rearrange by bedroom
-Become a missionary to Africa
-Transition to 80% raw food diet
-Finish college
-Become a professional photographer
-Recover my couch
-Complete every day of the advent calender


Some of these projects have happened, some have been started but not completed, and some are still ideas for the future. If you have been my friend for more then a month, you will notice this trend. I always seem to have a new idea, am researching new things and excited about a new adventure. My personality is goal oriented and I enjoy the challenge of a new project! Mrs. Rutland's "Back Burner Concept" is a perfect match for me!


Well, we are working on another one of my back burner ideas and I am ecstatic!!!

{...ADOPTION...}

I've had this idea since I was very young. Some girls dream of the wedding, or being moms, and I dreamt of adopting. I always wanted to have children that DIDN'T resemble me. I wanted to have children with dark skin, dark eyes and dark, natural hair. Well, that idea is going to become a reality in the next couple of years! (Don't get me wrong, I love my blonde haired, blue eyed, fair skinned kids as well!)


Craig and I have decided to expand our family to include two more children. After two emergency c-sections, we are done with the whole pregnancy thing. Our heart has always been for adoption, because there are kids out there that need homes, and we feel our hearts are big enough to love a couple more little bundles. (And yes, we are a little crazy to consider adding 2 more kids with our homegrown kids being as young as they are, but this is our life and we want to.)

Our first plan was to adopt a sibling pair locally, taking them out of the foster care system. We were signed up for our MAPP classes and ready to begin everything in January. The problem was, the median age of the children that need families right now is 9 years old. We aren't willing to change the birth order of our family. There are many reasons for this, and I'll probably write another post about that at another time, but a 9 year old doesn't fit into our homegrown birth order right now. When we received our MAPP registration in the mail, we knew we needed to cancel and think about another alternative.

And that is where my BACK BURNER idea came in. (If you missed it, I wrote about my desire to adopt here.) We have made the decision to adopt a boy AND a girl from the country of Uganda! My heart is so filled with joy at this thought! This is what my heart has desired for many, many years and we are going to make that a reality, with God's help!

Photo by Emily Rose Portraits

And that is where you all come in!

Adoption is a pricey process. Well, so is have 2 emergency c-sections, for that mater! Anyway, we need to raise $3,500 to begin our homestudy and dossier process. After these are complete, we can apply for grants and adoption interest free loans to pay for the rest of the adoption. We have a LONG list of fundraising ideas and believe me, you will be hearing about them, but for now we are starting by asking for your help.

We know adoption isn't possible for everyone, so we wonder if you would partner with us to make our adoption a reality. There are millions of children who need a family to love and care for them and you can help to give that to two children, by simply donating to our adoption fund. It is very simple!

To donate money to our adoption fund, click the "Donate" button on the top right side of the sidebar. Easy, peasy! Every amount is extremely appreciated! No amount is too small and no amount is too big!

Thanks for partnering with us in prayer, encouragement and financial support. This is just the beginning of a long process, but we look forward to where God will take us as we seek to add a couple more to the Barber brood!

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I am so excited for you guys. What an amazing and selfless thing to do. I would love to donate, even though just a small amount is all we can do now. Praying for you guys through this process.

Jillian DeWald

Jennifer said...

I hope I get to be the first to use your donate button! I sent everything in my Paypal account from my last writing gig. I'm excited that I get to watch you take this journey. Thank you for including us!

Unknown said...

Thank you both so much! Jillian and Jennifer, you warm my heart and are a sign that God will complete His will for our lives, despite the obstacles that are present. Thank you!!!

Mika said...

It was so neat to read this - especially since I just blogged about starting our adoption process today, too! We will be in the Jan classes that you were signed up for, but are still uncertain if God is opening doors to adopt through the state or to look into international adoption.(I already have dark haired, dark eyed children who do not look like me. lol) I'm so happy for you that you have some clarity and will be praying for you and your family as you embark on this awesome journey! I hope to be able to squeeze some $ out of our budget to donate after Christmas, too. God bless!